So I revived my profile on a local dating site about two weeks ago.
At some point, I get a mail from a really good looking 22yo, lets call him SD. His profile is intelligently put together, and his mail carried the comment: If you are not afraid of our age gap, drop me a line. Or something along those lines. And of course I am not, and I did.
We met for drinks – I had backup arrive in the form of my straight friend Ian about two hours into the date, and we all got on famously. We kissed when we left, and I invited him to dinner at my place later in the week. He called me several times, sent me cute sms’s and e-mails.
Dinner went well, and we ended up on the couch, kissing and going through some simulated sex. All in all, a really good evening. The next day, he went in to have his wisdoms removed, and decided to surprise him by being there when he wakes up.
He loved that fact I was there, held my hand, cried a bit saying he never expected me there. I gave him a lift home and met his father. he sms’d me later saying his father thinks I am a great guy.
The downside of all of this, is the fact that he has just signed a three year contract to work in Dubai, and he leaves in a month. I know this, and accept this. This is the reason we discussed not going all the way, and just enjoy each other’s company while it lasts, and who knows? Perhaps things don’t work out for him overseas, and he will be back, and we can look at how things progress from there.
Last Friday, Wesley and I head off to Newscafe, something we had planned, and something SD is well aware of. He knows of Wesley, and my very close relationship with him, and is perfectly ok with that. Late in the evening, he calls me to say he is on his way home from his firned’s place, would he mind if he had a drink with us at Newscafe. That was cool, and he did. Him and Wes got on fine, and Wes offered to help him out with his laptop the following day.
Wes and I had breakfast the folwwoing morning, and he said to me that for the first time, he really approves of someone I am seeing. He leaves to help Stroud, I leave to collect the girls to take them to Tap lessons.
Later, Wes sms’s me to say that SD is hitting on him, and he doesn’t know how to handle it. SD and I had made proivisional plans for the evening, so I wait for him to confirm, which he doesn’t.
Wes and I have coffee on Sunday. He is annoyed, and says to me that he sms’d SD to tell him it wasn’t appropriate, as I am his best friend and he does’nt want me hurt.
Last night, SD is on MSN. He asks me whats wrong, I say nothing. He says he has to tell me something that may hurt me. At the same time, I have Wes online too, and was conveying what is being said. SO SD tells me he has feelings for Wesley, and didn’t mean it to happen this way. So I tell him that I suspected from Wesleys language, and I am ok with it. I can’t make him attracted to me. This is an agreed response in quick consultation with Wes, as he is trying to figure a way to blow the guy off anyway, as he really doesn’t fall into his taste in age anyway.
So I say to SD that whatever he does, he mustn’t hurt Wesley. So he asks how can he hurt him? So I say: You leaving in a month right? He says goodbye, and goes offline.
He called Wesley four times afterwards last night. Wesley is annoyed. The plan is that they are having coffee later today, and Wesley is going to gently tell him to fuck off.
My irritation is not what happened, it’s the lies he expected me to believe.
OMG I am so irritated now……
I sometimes wonder where all of this is leading..
